death

so..... when someone dies.. those who live and remember and mourn are sad and they suffer. Does it ever occur to some that they would prefer to have been the one dying? Of course that idea comes to people's minds sometimes. Parents wish it were them and not their children. Lovers want to be the one to die. People say - they would be happy dying for causes and certain people BUT... is this ego? Is this a form of selfishness? I don't mean to be acusatory or judgemental or hostile but.. what about taking our cues sometimes from the one who is dying and who is now dead. Some of these people came to a place of peacefulness. They got to a place where they realized the futility that is our battles and wars against death. Death is more certain than taxes. Death is seemingly the most real thing we know. Life is not as real for most. Things are not as real as we might imagine them to be. Taxes can be avoided. History is suspect. Science is a matter of doubt. Religion and spirituality and mysticism and so much around such are matters of faith and belief and suspicion and more doubt. Only death is certain. AND even death is not certain to all... but it is probably more certain to more people than anything!!!! Wow?!