Friday, December 27, 2019

Coercion after voting....

Can exit polls be coercive? I can imagine in a small town they could easily be coercive.

Imagine a voting place where 100 people vote. Only one or two vote for a particular party and 98 people vote for the other party. How do you determine who the odd two people were? 

Exit polls could help. Looking people in the eye and reading their look is another way.

How can we combat this possibility the result of which could be shunning of the minority.

Mail-in voting could help if everyone mailed in their ballots and the results were not specific to particular localities.

Any other ideas? Concerns?

This IS important, I think, in these days of great divisivenes.

Conscience and voting and talking

It is the new year... January 1st to be precise and so many of us have had family gatherings and dinners with others who may not share our political views. We were advised to attend these gatherings and not discuss politics for the sake of peace in the house and family. Pretty good advice during these times of heated and angry divisions in out country and in our communities and in our families.

I wonder who was silent while others talked their talk? I wonder and worry that civil discussions did not generally happen (they can be difficult when passions are apparently in play). I wonder how many people bit their tongues and suppressed their anger. More importantly and sadly - how many people listened and listened and found themselves needing to be agreeable in the moment AND THEN will be in agreement later!?

We hear things and find ourselves agreeing with people to keep things civil and peaceful and then later do we live up to those agreements made for the sake of peace in the house? I fear YES -- we find ourselves doing things we essentially agreed to under the duress of needing to be silent.

HOWEVER -- IN THE VOTING BOOTH YOU WILL HAVE PRIVACY AND YOUR ENTITLEMENT AND RIGHT TO THE SECRET BALLOT. And after voting you can be agreeable or you can assert your right to privacy. No one has to reveal how they REALLY voted. The exit poles do not absolutely reflect the actual voting and in fact it might be wise to ban exit poles as they themselves may be viewed as coercive.

There are for some people very important single issues about which they are passionate.Beyond those single issues there are so many other important issues, more and less, to consider when deciding for whom to vote. WHAT IS THE REAL AND RIGHT BALANCE?

In my community Israel is single-issue swaying people. Israel's existence is absolutely right, important, and necessary. For some supporters of Israel there may be secondary issues stated as important, too, that sways them towards one party or another. For me the general social-mindedness of us Jews and our interests in justice is most real. I/We are very concerned about anti-semitism and gender-equality and racial equality and we know what is humanely wrong and right.

SO - love and use The Secret Ballot ... and say what you will or be silent in the face of hate... but vote out hate and vote out prejudice and vote in respect and loving kindness. Show you care!

It is sometimes difficult to talk the talk AND walk the walk. Sometimes is may be easier to walk the walk quietly. Live, work, and vote YOUR CONSCIENCE. Love and care.


Thursday, October 17, 2019

Gay people... My history

This is serious ... and there is also lightness in my mind about the "issue" ... and no more will I put that in quotes.

To be sure - I am a solid heterosexual who has always found dating difficult so I understand:

"Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night."
Woody Allen

Having said that I remain a simple heterosexual and by simple and solid I mean I never had the feeling for another man to lead me to ask him out. And no one ever asked me out... in fact some folks noted my "aura" or whatever showed me to be a hererosexual.

SO -- my life has included and does include people who are homosexual and herein I want to tell you some of my history with gay people since it may be interesting to someone somewhere.

(btw - spoiler alert -- a crazy idea about labeling is somewhere in this story.... when you get to it know that it has always been viewed by others as crazy, silly, etc)

I grew up in the 50's and 60's and in 1965 was nearly finished with high school.  Amongst my friends were two Michaels. I have not kept track with them since high school so some of what I think could be incorrect. We sang together in chorus (I think both of them did) and one didn't date but did go to many Broadway plays by himself. He, Michael-2, was gay I heard later... and believe to be true. Michael-1 may or may not have been gay but it was him I had an experience when I seriously wondered it he was. So - once we were hanging out, it got late, and I slept over at his house. There was one large bed and we shared it. I remember feeling uncomfortable. I had never before slept in a bed with another peer (I had, when a little kid slept in a bed with my grandmother when she visited). I was uncomfortable because I thought maybe he was gay.... I had no sexual experiences with anyone at that time and nothing happened however I obviously was impressed.

It should be noted I had no idea about homosexuality or any of the issues surrounding homosexuality. I knew nothing about laws or people's assumptions or religion or anything. I look back on that time I must wonder how did I even come to think/feel it was weird to be in a bed with another man? Yet I did!? I wonder?!

Next - flash forward 7 years. During the 7 years I went to college and then enrolled in Library School. I had no experiences I noticed in the gay world. People in those days, I think, were quiet (in the closet?) if they were gay. I felt no vibes from friends or acquaintances and then I found myself without a career or life direction. I worked as a postman and a cab driver in NYC. Then I stopped working and did a little traveling. At the beginning of my travels I visited friends who mentioned the profession of librarian to me and noted, significantly to me, the profession had a lot of women and homosexual men and a heterosexual man such as myself might do very well in that profession (I will not get into the good and bad ideas about these demographics - it was of the times). I have always liked books (for what that was/is worth) and I also enjoyed helping people and I liked learning all kinds of things AND I thought a library job would be great at a college or university since I could there study something else, such as psychology, and move into another profession. As things turned out I spend my life working in libraries and am happy I did.

Flash forward again - this time about two years. Met some people in library school. Met my wife to be. Met a young man who my fiance and I were friends with and who we essentially thought of as either homosexuial or asexual. Upon graduating from library school we were all together one afternoon driving around when this young man came out to us and told us he was having a problem with his family and their views about his boyfriend and maybe he was having some questions about his relationship with his boyfriend and I remember very clearly carrying on the conversation with him about relationships and prejudices and such without direct concerns about homosexuality. To say things differently -- we talked about family and relationships as problems we all have without addressing the "special" issue of homosexuality. I have always thought this was a natural and humane way to talk about and think about issues of personal/intimate relationships.

Note: I have not written or thought much about this scene for a long time. My recollection is that the naturalness of the problems of family and relationships without including the issue of homosexuality was a good thing. We might have talked about homosexualty a bit ... maybe more then a bit... AND now looking back I can think maybe talking about it more might have been a good thing.

Since those days I have worked in libraries and lived in places where generally homosexuality and now LGBT+ people are accepted and issues such as marriage have come a very long positive way and that is good! There are people I know who are gay. There are people I know who are not. I don't know the sexual proclivities of some people. I am still simply a solid heterosexual. The only time I wonder about another person's sexuality is when I am thinking about dating which today I am not doing as I have a wonderful partner.

I look back at My History relative to gay people and see I never questioned by sexuality, I don't recall ever being told to worry about homosexual seductions nor to think about them in any way, AND I had what I would call easy and gentle incremental contacts with homosexuals that I internalized peacefully. And that is my story/history.

A message to my reader: Don't worry. Don't be afraid. Don't hate prejudicially. Be humane. Be accepting. If you can't be accepting then at least be tolerant. Know that life is full of variations in interests, intelligence, understanding, knowledge, spirituality, and more. And know there are TRUTHS... (today, in the Trump era one has to speak about Truths....)

We can all get along together AND in our separate groups/spaces. We have reasons to be separate and distinct and we have some important overarching issues with which we all have problems. Who marries/loves someone might be a way of life that is distinct and separate for some people. Climate change is a worry for us all. Pluralism is the American way and that means groups getting along with other groups for the good of everyone... and The Planet Earth!



Thursday, September 26, 2019

More P's and some F's

Patriot
Partisan
Political
Power
President
Prejudice
Peace....
People !!!!

SO... in fact a partisan and a patriot can be the same. It is ALL political. With the purpose to have power. Our problem is we have a President who is prejudiced... in so many ways the primary way is he thinks he is all knowing and he knows more than anyone else. He is PRIME... another P. And this country and our world will not have Peace until he is gone.

Simple really... a President and our government is not made up of people who are for themselves first and foremost and that is the Trump way. Our elected officials are our People... and we are their People and it is the People for whom all is meant to be.

Ours is a government of and by and for the people! As said by Abraham Lincoln:

that these dead shall not have died in vain—that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom[8]—and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.

All Americans are The People.

The United States Constitution says:

"We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America."

President Trump is not one of the people! He is, HE says... better then anyone. HE respects few if any as he has mocked and threatened many so that even Senators fear him.

What about F's
Fear
Fairness
Foul play

Ah... Fear.. We are truly F**k'd with fear. Fear of immigrants. Fear of the truth. Fear of The People who are not us... People living in cities or on farms or other parts of the nation or city. Fear of races and religions.

But WE ARE AMERICANS... and we live in the Home of the Brave. And I hope we will find the courage and bravery to stand up to The BULLY for that is what President Trump is. He bullies and lies and smirks. Do we really want this Bully and Clown anymore?

YES -- rich white males and poor white males seem to find something in Trump they like. They like hearing their darker thoughts spoken out loud... And those dark thoughts are real to them and troubling and FAIRNESS has left the room, so to speak. When the workings of government are halted because it can be done (Speaker of the House blocks for over a year the legitimate nomination of a justice for the Supreme Court)... that is Foul Play. Sure - it was done and thus could be done... and yet it was WRONG...

Fear and Fairness and Foul Play ... can add up to we are simply F**k'd... you know!?

What is Freedom? Freedom is just another word ... for nothing left to lose... and if we do not impeach his aberration to our system... then we will be lost and not free. We will have a lawless dictator whose ethics and morals are truly and absolutely bad, wrong, evil... and we will feel powerless and useless and harmed.

And so on and so aon..

Monday, September 23, 2019

TRAVEL Bucket List

Well...
Greece - but why?
Belize -- Deanne... w/Wendy and Mark
China - Great Wall, culture, landscape, clay warriors, river... Forbidden City... Special places.
Vietnam - Deanne seems keen.
Israel... again... and again...
And Jordan .. specifically Petra...
Antarctic
Russia??? culture, people, ???
France - Paris, Normandy, wine country....
Italy - especially the south... and Venice??? third time the charm?
Norway - Oslo...
Seychelles??? - volunteer and scuba...???!!
Australia, New Zealand.... etc.. beauty....
Galapagos
Machu Pichu... if I can get into shape...
Costa Rica -- Deanne....
OR COURSE -- NYC....!!!
Cuba....
Mexico... Mexico City... and Mayan ruins... and ???
Japan ...


Tuesday, September 03, 2019

Great America

By Great America I do not mean the amusement parks.... I mean to talk about our wonderful country, The US of A. We were great, we are great... and we will be great because of wonderful citizens and plentiful land and natural resources as well as good fortune. Yes - we are fortunate to have within our borders plenty!

We may lack certain things sometimes. International food distribution means we can have tomatoes all year round. We can get certain precious metals by trading important things such as foods and we have ways of supplying our energy needs both by using carbon-based fuels and renewables.

What we sometimes lack is a certain WILL TO DO... To do what is difficult because economics suggests "easier" ways to get things done. Sometimes that economics is a TRADE WAR.

War ... war, war.... Really? Easy to win? Are there ever winners? Who loses and when? For how long? War is just not really good. Or necessary! Being offensive is considered wrong and the USA is very capable of defending itself!

SO - what is my concern when it comes to GREAT AMERICA? My concern is that SHOULDing other nations is just as bad and non-productive as when any of us tells a friend, spouse, child, etc to do what the SHOULD.... Few of us for only a limited amount of time get to effectively tell another what they should do... A child should not play with fire. A child should get an education. A child should do this and that... but once any child becomes an adult telling them what they should do is less and less likely to get the results appropriate. This is also the case for nations.. especially mature and powerful nations.

Today the USA and China are fighting a war on the economic fronts. Each side wants the other to do this or that. In other words, for instance, the USA thinks China should stop breaching intellectual property rights. China may think the USA should share information freely and transparently. There are other issues... but I think each side has a set of SHOULDS for the other side with the goal of gaining some advantage.

What WE in the USA can do is we can do what we have done best for years -- encourage science and technology and innovation and outside-the-box thinking. Free thinking!

What else we in the USA can do is make living and working in the USA better for all. According to the numbers, i.e. statistics showing how wealth is distributed today compared with the 1950's and other times ... wealth is more concentrated in the hands of a few and less spread around to workers and others.  A taxation system which to some extent leveled the playing field, so to speak, and redistributed some wealth to the poor and disadvantaged has changed. Taxes have fallen for all, perhaps, but mostly for the rich and in many cases where services have diminished for ordinary folks such services are able to be paid for privately and for private purposes by the rich. Consider how the rich can buy the best health care, the best education, and the best police. Yes - private police!!!

America is great when it is great for all or at least most Americans. Most/all Americans need good health care, good education for their children, good policing of their communities.

The way to get what all Americans need is to get the money to pay for all this and that means higher tax receipts and that is most easily affordable by those people making in excess of 500 thousand dollars a year and/or who have assets in excess of 5 million dollars. Don't you think such people can live well with such money and how many of us have close that amount on which to live and eat. There is a lot of excess out there which shared would benefit a lot of people. And that would be GREAT!

Monday, September 02, 2019

Asserting the political MIDDLE... now

I am not personally in The Middle politically. I am to the left of middle. I am not radically to the Left and sometimes my sense of what is best has me looking at the Right. Essentially, however, I do not think either the Left or the Right has the absolutely best answers.

The idea that some group and their position(s) may be ABSOLUTELY the best is where the trouble lies. There are multiple types of people with multiple types of problems and the resulting variety of people and problems means there are multiple ways for problems to be solved.  There may in fact be an infinite variety of solutions! What is good for one person in one situation may be bad for another. One size doesn't fit all - no matter what the labels say!

SO ... in the past our political system, i.e. the Congress, had members in the House of Representative and in the Senate who themselves were of varying types (yes... race and gender differences were not seen/there nevertheless there was variety in places of origin, education, professions, interests, religion, wealth, and personalities!) and when dealing with issues of taxation and education and defense and the post office and welfare, etc, etc.. etc...!!! -- there was a willingness to consider compromise and consensus and essentially SOLUTIONS... to the issues and the questions they raised. There were people on the Left and people on the Right and somewhere in the Middle solutions were found and sometimes the solutions leaned right and sometimes left and sometimes they worked and sometimes they did not work. Trial and error and hope was understood to be the way for all to get a chance!

Something seems different today in the present.

The future comes from the past and the present. At all times, in the past and in the present and in the future The Middle way is a way most and maybe nearly all people can find something useful and important and acceptable and tolerable. Compromise and consensus solutions work for many -- and it was understood solutions might not work for everyone all the time. Frustrations built up! Something better was wanted. Some best, absolutely best solution was wanted. People wanted education and health care for all that was absolutely the best for all. Dramatic news reports of the good and the bad and the ugly were made and consumed because drama grabs our attention.  Drama, however,  is not found in the ORDINARY middle. The statistics showing most people getting good health care and a decent education are dry and uninteresting. Dramas - if positive and wonderful and miraculous left people who only had ok, ordinary experiences wanting more. Dramas showing bad and scary happenings made people think government and experts were not good enough.

However - good enough IS good enough.

While many people except the simple statement -- "life is not fair" I wonder if and when we can understand that the perfect and the absolute generally does not exist. It is something to strive for but not something we generally see or have and if we do achieve some perfection it is fleeting!

I and this essay is good enough I hope to cause you to consider The Middle Ways. YOU are good enough to get the point.

The point is in 2020 we need a new President who will not be perfect and who will try to do the best that can be done and who will succeed sometimes, fail other times, and serve the interests and needs of most Americans. Something in the middle for most! I don't know who that will be.

Donald Trump does not know the Middle Way as he has demonstrated an arrangance of assumed perfection in spite of facts and reality to the contrary of his "facts", etc.. People with open eyes and hearts know truth is real and not what Trump sees.

Do we really want to be lead by someone with NO humility and who only trusts himself while ignoring most (almost all) experts? Chemists and physicists and historians and journalists and poets and businessmen and astronauts and teachers and clergy and doctors and almost all knowledgeable experts with differing views then his are simply called stupid or worse.  Trust IS important and trusting others is necessary unless you are God... and Trump is not God! What kind of person believes others are bad, wrong, evil.. if they differ a lot or even a little from his views? How many of us are like that and are happy and effective? Working and living and growing together with tolerance and acceptance is The Middle Way and is how people relate well over time and space.

GO MIDDLE!

Wednesday, August 21, 2019

The Secret Ballot - REALLY?!

Today reports of loyalty of Jews to the United States was questioned by the President and really the question was about loyalty to That Man... That BOSS... This issue of loyalty arose early in his life and his presidency and was likened to the loyalty oaths of Crime Bosses... Go figure?

Today we have surveys before and after people vote ... asking them who they will vote for and who they have voted for so when the official results come in it is possible to understand something about the voters and the candidates and the issues. In fact the official results are all that are necessary and all that we had for the early years of our democracy and now the additional information seems to be coincident with lower and lower voter turnout. Hmmm???

HOWEVER, to my point - the official results are what matter MOST and the voting we do is a SECRET BALLOT. In this day of privacy issues the secret ballot is important for us to preserve and we should all vote officially while especially not responding to exit polls. Once we have decided and voted ... so be it!

To me it is a no-brainer as to who I will vote for... ANYONE except Donald Trump. The reasons against him in my mind are many and while I have seen some people shrug off this or that because they agree with some narrow, specific issue - if we ignore morality and honesty and truth and justice... then really we are ignoring The American Way. Yes -- that sounds like Superman's motto and he is fictional and not real AND YET ... he was good and meant to be good and tried to be good and that was, is, and may again be: The American Way.

Back to The Secret Ballot --- no one is required to reveal who they voted for and why. We all are entitled to our privacy and personal thoughts. I simply hope - people will be thoughtful and look at the bigger picture then small, special, narrow interests. We CAN BE CONQUERED if we are DIVIDED.

I have thoughts to share in future about The Middle and about BRAVERY... and I think it is time to bravely find and strengthen and hold The Middle.

Tuesday, August 20, 2019

Death and the death penalty.

THIS IS CURRENTLY, AS OF 8/20/19 -- IN DRAFT ... COMMENTS WELCOME... MY ESSENTIAL THINKING/POSITION IS BELOW AND AT THE LINK NOTED..

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Writing and thinking and discussing the issue of Capital Punishment - i.e. The Death Penalty ... is very difficult to do, I find. I have my opinion/position and some very important people in my life do now agree with me. I would like the people in my life to honor my wish that no person be executed for my death... and one response was one I could not agree to... and that was: will you seek the death penalty for me if I am killed? An impasse. One bottom line thought I have is... In the event someone dear to me is killed and in that event if I feel the perpetrator should be executed... I hope SOCIETY will intervene and not kill but imprison for life! That is my wish....

In any case, today I write as a followup to an opinion piece in The New York times (click here) and there you will find usual reasons asserted against capital punishment. Below are some additional thoughts and emotions.

I wonder what moves/guides us when making important decisions or coming to important opinions? When will we celebrate happily after our decisions and actions?  What opinions bring us joy?

I celebrate births. I do not celebrate deaths. I will sing and dance and pray for goodness when a child comes into our world but when someone dies I mourn the loss of a force of life from our world. Joy is part of life and living and death does not add to my joy.

I am moved and guided by facts, experience, ideas, prayer, literature, poetry, music.... Generally, stuff from others. This stuff needs to be considered and my be objective and certainly subject to analysis which could be uncomfortable. Passions, opinions, other personal subjective thoughts move me, too,  and they are often not subjected to objective analysis as they are assumed as they came from my family and culture so they feel warmly comfortable and familiar and may be assumed to be right, based on their source.

Thus we have various ways to understand issues and at some point we decide on some side. I wonder when do we consider changing decisions made once upon a time when those decisions no longer are best? How do we even know they are not the best?

What do we do when facing choices where there is a conflict of truths based on facts versus truths based on feelings? When facts and feelings are in harmony - no problem. When does that happen? I am not talking about "alternative facts" but the disconnect from what we seem to deeply feel and know versus what we don't easily know or feel but which may be a difficult and better truth!

Often the subjective and objective are in conflict and the degree of the disconnect is sadly significant in many areas of life and death. The exception is at the time of death when a person is either still alive or is stone cold dead. No disconnect and no possibility of a correction barring the miracle of resurrection. 

I believe miracles have happened, happen, and will happen. Some miracles are rare such as resurrection and some, such as childbirth, though scientifically true, are seen and felt every day. In fact childbirth is a prime example of the smallest of disconnects between feelings and facts. Subjectively we are amazed and scientifically we understand. Truly wonderful.

For me it is best when my beliefs and science are in harmony. When such harmony is not present I then must choose and when the choice is between life and death I am taught and I believe it is the choice of Life that must be made. The Bible teaches: 

Deuteronomy 30:19
.......I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live 20 and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him......"

I rather bless and be blessed then curse or be cursed. 

When blessed by miracles or facts I celebrate. Childbirth is a time for celebration. What, however, does a celebration of death look like? I really don't know how to happily celebrate the death of anyone - a good person or an evil person. Clearly there has been some curse... a killing! When there is a death - premeditated or accidental - where is the blessing to celebrate? Maybe in some cultures people eat, drink, and are merry as part of their death rituals but I think (hope?) the celebration is about life and the living and not death. Generally death is a matter of griefs and wonderings about what could have, should have... been AND about how important is life and living it fully. 

I guess there are people and times where there is an apparent celebration over the execution of a killer of a loved one. I wonder how the people really feel?  I clearly do not want to suffer the loss that motivates such a celebration and I love celebrations and wish I could join in all the wonderful celebrations of people everywhere but death of a PROBABLE killer is not something I can or should ever celebrate. What if after the celebration it is determined the "killer" was innocent? There are no take-backs when someone is dead.




Wednesday, August 07, 2019

Racism???

Read a news report about Ibram X. Kendi who won the National Book Award a few years ago for Stamped from the beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America 





He has a new book about how to be anti-racist coming out Tuesday.

The report was in the NY Times and several things caught my attention. One - he taught at the University of Florida and so was a Gator... as is/was Deanne. Second he asserts that no one or thing is a non-racist instead all are either racists or anti-racist. I plan to get a copy of his books and read them and consider such ideas COMING FROM the perspective of things and people being on a CONTINUUM ... In other words -- view ideas and people on a line with one end being ANTI-RACIST and the other end being NON-RACIST.... 

HOWEVER - now that I write it down and as I seek some middle ground of peace and love I wonder ??? What is the appropriate continuum. I DO BELIEVE a continuum is a good model if the points on that continuum include all possibilities as best possible in a one-dimensional plane.

NOW HERE ARE SOME THOUGHTS... ON THE FLY:
SO - for people, ideas, times, etc... the continuum might be: Multi-racial pluralism on one end and Mono-racial purity on the other end. In the middle would be acceptance and tolerance of both extremes with protective rules, laws, customs, etc to ensure peace and equality.

I do need to read more!

Let me say something personal.... Once upon a time I did not think African-American women were pretty, etc... I saw them, the few I saw, as different and not beautiful as I understood beauty. Then I worked in an office with many African-Americans and noticed many different looks AND I got ot know people on a personal level. I saw beauty of various types. I opened to news appreciations. I am better for that awareness I gained in the mid-70's!

Monday, August 05, 2019

Simple little things..

More as time goes on...

The points/issues below are mostly simple, I think, and ESSENTIAL. The Health Care issue may be more complicated but really?? I did see an advertisement against Medicare for All because of costs but really - those numbers can be adjusted so as to get to them with point #5 below - a properly progressive tax so the rich help... Yes - HELP... or pay their fair share ... or whatever you want to call it!

TODAY - 8/5/19
After Shootings in Texas and Ohio
1. background checks for all new sales and transfers of guns, weapons, etc...
2. Easy/quick voting registration and rights for all citizens
3. Raise minimum wage for all to 15 dollars an hour
4. Health care for all -- one way or another!
5. An appropriate Progressive Income Tax system.

TOMORROW?
Send comments - if/as you have them

Friday, July 26, 2019

Easy politics...Really?

beginning... 7/26/19 -- and a work in progress... this post...

There are easy politics .. imho - which are purely economic and college tuition ... free going forward and easings for those in deep debt... Easy.. I hope/think - because - numbers can be applied and values assessed and gained and be rather clear. MORE a bit later...

Hard politics are those related to values, morals, etc - such as abortion and capital punishment and while economics can be applied for such issues that complicates and makes things much more difficult... More later, too.

Back to the easy -- it is possible to apply values, morals, ethics... etc to issues that BEGIN as economic and thus complicate them... With student debt -- those folks did take on responsibilities and promises and they must keep them...  Even if the basic economic system went haywire... and even if debt-related remedies such as bankrupcy laws were RIGGED against the students!!!!

AND so... more... (for now - it is late and I'm tired and hopefully I will get back to all this very soon!!! - COMMENTS... welcomed always.

Sunday, July 14, 2019

in the middle

Can someone be absolutely and strongly and really with commitment and power - BE IN THE MIDDLE...!!!??

I mean - I am strongly in support of the middle of the road... in politics, policy, economics, race, gender... you name it and I want to find and be in the middle... I want to find consensus and/or compromise .. .whatever it take for most people to live and let live how they want to live...

LIVE...!! Let live....!!! Accept and/or tolerate others. Make and/or give SPACE FOR LIFE... to the living.

The Middle must grow and be strong. The Middle must BE!

Sunday, June 30, 2019

Sunday shopping - with Sarah

Met Sarah at Vacaville outlets .. had coffee... talked... shopped for shoes -- very busy day with great sales... Bought shoes and then had lunch and then onto Costco for me, for gas, and for some stuff... including coffee!!!

Talmud class -- about what cannot be added to The Prayer... birds shewed from nest, thanks, thanks, and ????? (check w/Shmary and photocopy)....

Back home.. cleaned up a little... and waiting for Deanne... ??? So she can see wonderful dahlia growth.

And now as I wait... more cleaning up.

On Shabbat -- aka Saturday

Did the talk... noted below... essentially. We had a minyan of exactly 10 just as it was time for the Torah service. Nice morning, I think.

Rest of the day very good.... Napped and after nap joined by Deanne for a little while and that was very nice...

Later went to Three Mile Brewery - had a beer... and played a game called... mancala -- and Deanne won all except one we tied. I just recently learned she likes to play games.. though not necessarily word games.



Saturday, June 29, 2019

Shabbat talk -- 6/30/19

This week the Torah portion is: Shelach  and it is about the Spies sent to check out The Land G-d has promised us...  The haftorah tells another story of spies checking out the land ... and the Torah's story asserts we should be afraid of the people inhabiting the land ... and the haftorah asserts the opposite - that the people in the land are afraid of us. BOOKENDS...

The issue is trusting G-d and remembering G-d's powers seen earlier at the Reed Sea as well as the Manna and the Quails we were fed with as well as the plagues brought against the Egyptians...

The result of the spie story in the Torah is that the generation of freed Israelite slaves will wander 40 years in the dessert until they all die and none enter the land. 

We might also discuss the hint I see that Moses will not go into the Land.... as the Torah says only Joshuah and Caleb of this generation will go into the land... It is later when Moses strikes the rock for water and G-d declares that as the reason he will not go in... " NUYMBERS 
20:12God said to Moses and Aaron, 'You did not have enough faith in Me to sanctify Me in the presence of the Israelites! Therefore, you shall not bring this assembly to the land that I have given you.' 

BUT - it seem rather clear HERE G-d already knows, 40 years earlier,  Moses will not go in.

However - we here at CBH do not read the Torah part about spies this year since we are on the Triennial cycle and while we do read the haftorah story about spies ... I want to simply look at points brought up in the third third of the Torah parsha we did read.

Several mitzvahs are given to us When We are in The Land - The offering of Challah is one. Other sacrifices are noted and the Torah says here -- The will be one law for all in the land ... you and the stranger.... Or Prosylite...

AND the end of this parsha is the third paragraph of the Shema which we say every day. Here at CBH we chant the last part but in the entirety says:

The L-rd spoke to Moses, saying: Speak to the children of Israel and tell them to make for themselves fringes on the corners of their garments throughout their generations, and to attach a thread of blue on the fringe of each corner. They shall be to you as tzizit, and you shall look upon them and remember all the commandments of the L-rd and fulfill them, and you will not follow after your heart and after your eyes by which you go astray - so that you may remember and fulfill all My commandments and be holy to your G‑d. I am the L-rd your G‑d who brought you out of the land of Egypt to be your G‑d; I, the L-rd, am your G‑d. True.


SO --- these are things are found and read as I got ready to lead services today. I offer you the points I have noted... but I don't offer you actionable conclusions. Who am I to do that?

I will say the ideas of the stranger - or prosyletite, in our midst being treated fairly and justly - - as we ourselves treat ourselves seems right and is something in our nations we see less and less as strangers are feared, I will say that what our eyes see and that to which we are attracted to in any moment may not be good and wholesome in the long run. I will say that taking and giving challah I find to be a privilege and an obligation and a joy.

Friday, June 28, 2019

And VOTE Democrats into all Federal Government (President, House, Senate)


Do NOT sit out .... because your one special issue isn't fully addressed or the candidate chosen isn't pure and perfect - now or in the past.... or because others will carry the day...

Yes - Hilary Clinton lost and didn't go to certain important states immediately before the election. ASSUMPTIONS were made. It was EXPECTED  Trump would lose meaning she would win.

Yes - she was not perfect... So people had reasons to not vote for her.

OUR DEMOCRACY IS BROKEN.... and has been for a very long time. The evidence is the level of voter participation. With so many people NOT VOTING.... democracy cannot work and those who don't vote may have or may not have the right to complain (I'll add a note here quoting George Carlin's point on voting and complaining....).

IS democracy the best system? I think it is when it works and it only works when all who can vote - vote!

NO ONE is perfect. No party or platform is perfect. Hypocracy is not the problem.Past views and positions are not weights to drag someone down... Nuance and change are most real. Things are grey at best --- or a muddy colorful blob... whatever --- and each of us can live our lives as close to purity and perfection as we can WHILE ACCEPTING OTHERS.... and their views of what is "absolutely" right for themselves.

Some things about Trump...

(SO -- on issue by issue (THIS is NOW a draft/WORK-IN-PROGRESS...  as of 6/29/19 -- and should be done by July 4th))

Some things to note about Trump's statements/rhetoric....

Mexicans and others crossing the border
Disabled persons
Womanizing
Saudi Arabian murders vs economics
Relationships with dictators....
Ethically/morally wrong within the letters of the law.

There are lots of things to consider about Trump and above is a very short list and the ones for which I have vivid images and are examples of how people can wave things off as unimportant. 

First of all -- Trump must be defeated... and there is more I will write about that.
Secondly - the list above contains important distinct points and those do not cumulate, add-up, but stand individually and separate so they, for many?, do not become a mass that cannot be ignored and accepted. They are issues/points which each on their own apparently can be lived with by many. I don't know why they do not add-up and cumulate for all -- but that must be part of the reason millions of people continue to accept him.

This WORK-IN-PROGRESS will accept comments before completion and after -- note dates of comments and the date at top for when a actually/really complete!

Thursday, May 09, 2019

Just saying: Vigilance and Impeachment

When Donald Trump won election with a majority of the Electoral College (not the popular vote!) those who did not think he was the best choice said: Be Vigilant. That seemed to be a good idea up to the following points:

1. The quantity of his strange actions and words were a lot to watch.
2. His apparent disinterest in generally following reasonable precedence was a lot to watch
3. His being really totally out of control relative to norms of any kind of moral, ethical, or legal behaviors was too much to watch
4. Watching someone who didn't care about anything except himself and opinions, feelings about himself... at the expense of truth and science and empathy... WELL!!

NOW -- the only thing for us mere mortals to do... is to hope the professionals - i.e. the elected politicians/officials in Congress will impeach and convict Trump. At least impeach!

Note... (this is an added revision a few minutes after original posting):

I used to watch a lot of Stephen Colbert to get my news with a coating of comedy. I must say in the beginning I thought it was a bit harsh. Then it became normalized as what Trump was doing was harsh and harsher and harshest. And then - Colbert's stuff also became difficult to watch as it was one crazy thing after another being joked about while being serious. I wondered for my sanity!

A long time ago I didn't follow the news a lot. Then I thought I really should be following it a bit more and I began to read the newspapers and watch tv news and listen to NPR. AND THEN -- almost at the same time I heard Dr. Andrew Weil talk about mental health and taking a fast from the news... Wow - I found myself in the middle as I often do... pay attention to the news AND/OR take a break/fast from the news.

Today -- I read The New York Times a lot... or at least scan headlines and read parts of many articles Monday thru Friday. I take a local newspaper and listen to NPR, too. Colbert is somewhat on hold. All TV news and comedy is recorded for later watching but often is not watched. Am I more or less sane as I am somewhat more disconnected?

I WILL VOTE... ALL OF US MUST VOTE... And we, the still sane and truthful and caring must win!


Saturday, April 20, 2019

Defense of "the wicked child".


In defense of the Wicked Child
(son, daughter, they)
at Seder and beyond!

For years I have defended “the wicked child” with a short and basic point. I simply pointed out that s/he was present and curious and that should be good enough.

Consider additional thoughts inspired by reading in The Jewish Journey Haggadah by Rabbinit Adena Berkowitz, who I think is a Chabad women as there are many teachings from Rabbi Schneerson and other Chabad rabbis.

What jumped out at me were the sources for the section about the four children. The source for the wicked child is The Book of Exodus 12:26; “And when your children ask you, What do you mean by this rite?' You shall say 'It is the passover sacrifice to the Lord, because He passed over the houses of the Israelites in Egypt when he smote the Egyptians, but saved our houses.'” A clear and simple answer and not excluding anyone. Relative to simplicity, the question from the simple child comes from Book of Exodus 13:8; “ And you shall explain to your son on that day, 'It is because of what the Lord did for me when I went free from Egypt.'” A personal response using the pronoun “me” yet not excluding anyone. We see in the Torah personal answers given with patience and clarity. The Lord anticipates the questions and gives a clear and straightforward answer without criticizing the person asking the question or suggesting the question was bad or stupid or insulting. G-d answers with great patience. We who answer questions may learn from the Torah more then from the Haggadah! The lesson is: Patience is very important!

I understand the section about the four children is a pedagogical construct to make some points and yet the answer given to the wicked child is clearly alienating while the the question may not be. Patience is a pedagogically important trait for teachers and students! Empathy and patience are character traits that are both difficult and essential.

The emphasis placed on the pronoun “you” is responded to with patience and empathy by G-d in the Torah. A lesson for us. Many of us are told it is unwise to talk about certain issues. One of those issues is religion and even though the Seder is a religious event full of questions and answers the strict structure of the Haggadah sets limits to the discussion. We patiently tell the story and yet are we connecting with each other today? The pronoun “you” is seen in the Haggadah as hostile and challenging as it can be viewed as an invasive and intrusive way to ask a question. For examples: “What do YOU think?” or “What do YOU feel?” I for one have a real curiosity about how others think and feel about religion and G-d and yet such questions are difficult to ask or answer as they are very personal sometimes unclear even to myself. Thus when confronted by such a question I may call it “wicked” or rude or impertinent so as to deflect it. The “wicked child's” question, however, may be viewed as a challenge to forging a personal and deep connection between me and you!

Finally, we modern parents are often told to not call our children bad or wicked. We can teach better when we talk about bad or wicked acts but that doesn't make them bad or wicked. Such an understanding and way of responding to things we do not like is, I think, a good way to approach children and all people so that we can continue to see within all that which is good and G-dly.

Furthermore, there are those who talk about a fifth child and herein the fifth child I would like to consider is the assimilated child. This is a Chabad idea as their big public mission is to find and bring in assimilated and/or unconnected Jews of all ages and especially youths. It is unwise to talk of wicked persons as any of us try to connect to the assimilated or disconnected fifth child.

Blessings and love and hope.

Ken Firestein
2019/5779


Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Really REALITY? - Over-rated!

I think reality is over-rated.

Consider the newborn... The newborn has sight and hearing and touch and smell and taste -- and these senses are then channeled, focused, and limited as the child develops.

The newborn seems to not see since following a finger or focusing on a face is not observed. The view of some is that it is through training that the newborn begins to "see" the finger or the face that WE want it to see.

Consider the Bible.... There are animals and plants and things all of which become real when Adam names them. The naming process focus's our attention on something about the cow or horse or apple or rose. Before they are named do they exist? Yes but the naming of them conceptualizes them for all of us to see together. The naming gives us the ability to "see" or "smell" or "hear" or "touch" or "taste" in the way we do today as we share our experiences. Without names communication to share  information is not possible.

Things UNnamed remain. Light IS named in the Bible and was known for a long time as something basic and simple. Today scientists have discovered and named complexities associated with light and now there is much more to the sun, the moon, and all sources of light. The world is a richer place, I think.

Reality is over-rated. What we know now to be reality is not everything that is. THERE IS MORE....!!!  And to "sense" that MORE is possible with science and art ... or artful science... or scientific art or faith and G-d.

collusion - not

I wonder - did I ever think there was collusion? I can imagine a) I did and b) I may have had doubts.

What I did think was that Russia used Facebook, etc.. to spread misinformation to confuse and influence voting. THAT was clear and easy to believe. I didn't call it by its old name and that old name was used in a report I heard today and the old name is: propaganda. Sometimes propaganda is true! Sometimes, false. Always it is targeted at various populations and it has intent. Sometimes it is done openly and sometimes secretly. The election propaganda efforts by Russians were done secretly and their intent was at least to sow or support feelings of discontent in various groups AND it has also caused many to lose trust in the election process.

Trust in the election process, i.,e. trust in the validity of votes is NOT the problem, I think and hope.

What IS the problem is our finding it difficult to trust information sources. Journalists, scientists, doctors, scholars, government agencies, police forces, and other information and action people and organization such as ones just listed were once valued and trusted AND TRUE... for the most part. YES - science and scientists and other experts are neither perfect nor solid in their views. New evidence changes the views of people who are open to new evidence and information. The various experts - and that is what the list shows - learn and try to stay up to date and accurate. That is their job and finding the right people to trust is more important the finding the most trustworthy opinions -- because opinions and science and truth changes as time moves forward bringing new information and ways of measuring things.

There is a difference between unchanging faith and the progress of science as information and technology change. Both faith and science have their important areas of interest and truth. I believe doing good is good and learning is good, too. I believe there are things which can not be known and it is wise to know as much as we can know. Faith(s) provide guidance for living with uncertainty while science(s) try to reduce uncertainty when possible. Faith may heal cancer and science/medicine may also heal cancer. As some say: Faith gives us the hope that our intellects though science/medicine will find cures in a timely manner.

Blessings/pray and Study/Experiment!

Monday, February 25, 2019

paycheck to paycheck.....

I write this inspired by an article in the NYTimes about a young Briton who grew up with austerity and is reading Marx and is a communist and/or socialist.

What I know about Marxism suggests to me it is full of common sense and goodness and ideals and hope... and it has not been successful as many hoped. Probably because of wars, competition with capitalist systems, power, greed, bad luck, and perhaps serious inconsistencies with the ideals of individualist human nature vs collective collaboration and sharing in community. AND some basic misunderstandings and bad actors, i.e. leaders who took advantages for themselves!

To begin -- in my opinion no one should worry about basic food, shelfer, clothing, education, and health. Competition for such basics is unnecessary except for leaders who will find power in controlling the distribution of those basics.  And power corrupts... always.

So here is my story... I was never one to stretch myself through debt (mortgages, big car loans) or have boats, vacation homes, even nice clothes, art, etc... ? I was pretty frugal and my expenses where low and also as you will read... shared... and somewhat guaranteed.

Recently I called upon colleagues to do something to help people suffering under the "partial government shutdown" because they lived from paycheck to paycheck. In other words - they had little in the way of savings or any ????? to tide them over the many weeks of not getting a paycheck. As I called upon these people, many of whom much wealthier then I, I think, and around my age... some younger, some older... working people and retired people... I noted: I never lived paycheck to paycheck... Or at least I never thought I had and here is my story.

First, I grew up in a stable nuclear family (i.e. no divorce even considered) to parents who had gone through the Great Depression of the 1930's. My parents had suffered anxiety, I think, and one thing they did was protect their children from financial worries. I know there were some. I know they lived careful austere life. We did not own a home and that was a big deal, I think. They did not discuss money. They always put plenty of food on the table. My mother did not work til I was in college. I grew up in the 1950's and went to college in 1967 to a state university where the tuition was nil and the costs of living were ... well... whatever they were since they paid for it....

When I finished school I wandered a bit without paying any rent and officially was based out of my parents apartment. I lived very frugally and at one point lived daily and nicely off of my tips from driving a taxicab in NYC and paid my rent and saved some money from my weekly paychecks from the cab company. A sweet arrangement.  Later I worked for a while with the US Post Office and after getting a degree in Library Science entered my profession  working essentially and generally for the state so my jobs paid ok, had very good benefits, AND I got married early on so shared expenses with a partner. The sharing of expenses was something I generally maintained even after divorces and breakups. And finally I found myself married and I entered retirement and then I divorced and then found I had a nice defined benefits pension plus savings since I never lived high on the hog... or got into debt. NICE...

I DO recommend a partnership for living and equality of the partners... OR at least... somewhat following the Marxist creed: to each according to their need/from each according to their ability... AT LEAST TO PAY... so in a relationship in the middle of my life when I was making about what my partner was earning ... but a little less.. we shared basic expenses based on creating a pot from a percentage of our gross income...  One of several ways people share expenses. I also was fortunate enough to have owned/bought on mortgage  a home soon after getting married and then being able to afford a second home while renting out the first. This dual home ownership was very good when we divorced as one of us got one house and the other got the second house... and the children we had helped keep things generally amiable.

Buying a home ... and having a mortgage was one key to my financial success. After having a home with a mortgage I refinanced that home a few times. Almost every time I took money out of the equity that had built up and the payments made either went down because interest rates improved or at the very least in each case the monthly payments were easily paid by my paycheck or pension check. I believe only a major catastrophic breakdown of the entire financial system of the country and world would cause me trouble. I have good health insurance, the steady income, and nice savings. So - what me worry?

YES I WORRY... about the sanity and safety and justice that others live with or without. No one should have to worry about where their next meal will come from. No one should have to be homeless. No one should be uneducated or unhealthy. Basics must be available to all EASILY and readily.

Also what should be universally available is good, useful, meaningful work. I believe as Eric Hoffer believed that there is dignity in work and people want to work so earn their dignified. One way to achieve this dignity is to serve for a couple of years in something like the Civilian Conservation Corps or some other public works program which benefits all. Even a couple of years in the Armed Services would count, of course. After such service all basics are therefore earned along with personal dignity ... and future chosen work is extra and personal and voluntary. Staying the the Armed Services or the Conservation Corps would be options. A teacher corps would be option, after appropriate training. The arts and culture would be possibilities as would scholarship, science, medicine, engineering, etc, etc...

Oh what a world we could have!

Ideally\

The problem... the rub is... to get there we need leaders and organizers and visionaries... who will step aside quickly instead of doing the historically natural thing which is to hang onto their "top" positions and take extra for their "special" efforts. OY!