Seder ONE - and the QUESTION =
17 asked-confirmed- 12 (and NOT - 1) = accounted for - 13
karen and ken - both coming
margot and saboud - asked - one is coming
betty and gershon - asked... both coming
judy and hillel - asked ... both coming
micha and maya
paul and denise asked ... both coming
karen and jim and lev ... asked three coming
karen and dan
Seder TWO - and the QUESTION =
19 listed - confirmed - 2 (and NOT - 2) = accounted for: 4karen and ken - both coming
margot and saboud (asked) - one not coming - one ????
kristen sortais - asked - not coming
ilia and seymore and sarah - to be asked
linda sternberg - asked
syma and bruce - to be asked??? OK
barbara anderson - to be asked ??? OK
melissa and greg and sam - hold on asking - but most probably
phillip and mary - probably ask?
mr and mrs melissa - DEFINITELY hold on asking
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
passover - update4 on blog
Friday, March 17, 2006
Its Anniversary time... its anniversary time...
YES - the time is just about here! Today is Friday and on Sunday it will be our First Anniversary!
We plan to get together with our Maid of Honor and Best Man plus their partners at the Sacramento Brewing Company at Town and Country, near the Trader Joes. They have a buffet brunch w/champagn/beer... and Karen and I have been their for dinner and it looks nice. We hope the brunch will be nice.
As for gifts.. this is yet to be known to each of us recipients. It will be reported later.
It has been QUITE THE YEAR! We have traveled a lot. We have planned a bit/lot... as we try to make our home ours. See - firesteinhouse.blogspot.com for more stuff about that project. Suffice it to say we continue to think, analyse, etc. Now we are about to look at homes to buy and replace our Breton abode. Maybe???!!!....
Traveling began with our honeymoon in Hawaii in March, 2005. During the summer we went to Monterry (great dinner on my birthday), Ashland (with my daughters), and Newport Beach. In December we traveled to Utila, Honduras where we helped with the old (Max) and new (Dylan) grandchildren and where I learned to and got certified as a scuba diver. In Februrary, 2006, we visited my daughters in NYC and also visited relatives who I had not seen for quite a while! Also saw Gail and Larry. We stayed at Susan Rosenthal's wonderful apartment in Manhattan and had dinners and visits with Steve and Suzie and their son Ben and with Flora and Liz, too.
In NYC, visiting with my Uncle Jerry and my Cousin Sheera were two special wonderful visits! Visting with Cousin Arthur was quite wonderful, too.
Helping my daughters a bit in NYC included introducing them to some of my relatives and getting Amy a nice business suit. Amy had a lot of time to spend with us. Sarah made a lot of time, too. The girls made a wonderful Shabbat/Friday night dinner for us and their place was pretty nice. They are soon to be moving again and a new place they will probably be getting sounds good and is in Manhattan where they want to be. Jobs are developing and improving. SO... things are looking up.
Karen and I continue to grow and develop and continue to love and grow our love. We have people around us who are doing well and not so well We worry and love them and support them as we are supported ourselves in our home together. We really enjoy our family and friends and community. Life is good!
Let me say again --- life is good!! THANK YOU!!!!
We plan to get together with our Maid of Honor and Best Man plus their partners at the Sacramento Brewing Company at Town and Country, near the Trader Joes. They have a buffet brunch w/champagn/beer... and Karen and I have been their for dinner and it looks nice. We hope the brunch will be nice.
As for gifts.. this is yet to be known to each of us recipients. It will be reported later.
It has been QUITE THE YEAR! We have traveled a lot. We have planned a bit/lot... as we try to make our home ours. See - firesteinhouse.blogspot.com for more stuff about that project. Suffice it to say we continue to think, analyse, etc. Now we are about to look at homes to buy and replace our Breton abode. Maybe???!!!....
Traveling began with our honeymoon in Hawaii in March, 2005. During the summer we went to Monterry (great dinner on my birthday), Ashland (with my daughters), and Newport Beach. In December we traveled to Utila, Honduras where we helped with the old (Max) and new (Dylan) grandchildren and where I learned to and got certified as a scuba diver. In Februrary, 2006, we visited my daughters in NYC and also visited relatives who I had not seen for quite a while! Also saw Gail and Larry. We stayed at Susan Rosenthal's wonderful apartment in Manhattan and had dinners and visits with Steve and Suzie and their son Ben and with Flora and Liz, too.
In NYC, visiting with my Uncle Jerry and my Cousin Sheera were two special wonderful visits! Visting with Cousin Arthur was quite wonderful, too.
Helping my daughters a bit in NYC included introducing them to some of my relatives and getting Amy a nice business suit. Amy had a lot of time to spend with us. Sarah made a lot of time, too. The girls made a wonderful Shabbat/Friday night dinner for us and their place was pretty nice. They are soon to be moving again and a new place they will probably be getting sounds good and is in Manhattan where they want to be. Jobs are developing and improving. SO... things are looking up.
Karen and I continue to grow and develop and continue to love and grow our love. We have people around us who are doing well and not so well We worry and love them and support them as we are supported ourselves in our home together. We really enjoy our family and friends and community. Life is good!
Let me say again --- life is good!! THANK YOU!!!!
Tuesday, March 07, 2006
Comfort and Control..... Who has it?
Ah, who controls? What is control? Is control good, bad, ugly?
All in the eye/mind/spirit of the one controled or controling. SO - if I avoid going here, there, etc - then the reasons I "avoid" is controling me. The reason might be safety. A reason might be comfort... In fact - perhaps COMFORT IS the point. And - being UNComfortable... ala - Pema Chodron IS the answer.
Of course - some controlling people will get the cooperation, so to speak, of the person who is trying to control. Ah... oh well. One can't make people cooperate or not or... whatever.
Most people mean to be good and control is probably often meant to be helpful. BUT - if a person feels controlled then that probably signals a lack of comfort and/or acceptance and/or understanding and therefore either communication should make clear the intent and the benign nature of the "control" OR the "control" should be stopped.
I must say that COMFORT is the least important reason for doing anything. Hasn't it been said taht "the comfortable go to hell"? or something.
Ah... to be comfortable... for how long? Why? WHAT IS COMFORT OR COMFORTABLE? Who knows? Who really has it? Anyone? Maybe not... since? all is in flux. All is uncertain. All changes. SHEEeeeeeSHHHHHH
All in the eye/mind/spirit of the one controled or controling. SO - if I avoid going here, there, etc - then the reasons I "avoid" is controling me. The reason might be safety. A reason might be comfort... In fact - perhaps COMFORT IS the point. And - being UNComfortable... ala - Pema Chodron IS the answer.
Of course - some controlling people will get the cooperation, so to speak, of the person who is trying to control. Ah... oh well. One can't make people cooperate or not or... whatever.
Most people mean to be good and control is probably often meant to be helpful. BUT - if a person feels controlled then that probably signals a lack of comfort and/or acceptance and/or understanding and therefore either communication should make clear the intent and the benign nature of the "control" OR the "control" should be stopped.
I must say that COMFORT is the least important reason for doing anything. Hasn't it been said taht "the comfortable go to hell"? or something.
Ah... to be comfortable... for how long? Why? WHAT IS COMFORT OR COMFORTABLE? Who knows? Who really has it? Anyone? Maybe not... since? all is in flux. All is uncertain. All changes. SHEEeeeeeSHHHHHH
Angry, enraged, TRAPPED?
So - I lost it the other night. Badly. Noticed while it was happening that I lost it... but kept on going with talk. Why? Who really knows... but I will say the following:
1. today, the final? thought on the origin of the rage is that I saw myself being trapped into doing something while I, for whatever reasons, really wanted to do something else. I was "asked" and told why it was needed and all in front of an audience and with a time constraint, too. SO... an answer was needed NOW and clearly it must meet the needs of some other... and my interests were not inquired about... SO - I was TRAPPED.
2. And... the "other" just talked and talked and talked and set up the situation so that the "other" could not be refused because illness and weakness was all on the "other" side. How could anyone refuse. SO - TRAPPED again! And the audience could see how needy was this other!
3. The reasons given may or may not have been the entire set of reasons. And - if I was to do anything else --- I would have been alone in a strange area of the city. THANKS alot. And I already had been told that "walking by oneself" was undesireable and even dangerous. So, I wonder, if this "danger" issue might have been a or even the reason!
I DO get angy. That is ok, I think. Becoming enraged is NOT ok. Being ENTRAPPED is also not ok. Feeling like I have no choice is a bad feeling for me. A VERY BAD FEELING. Nevertheless, I must try, in the future, to BREATHE through it. Even if it kills me to be trapped - that is something I need to do.... Right?
1. today, the final? thought on the origin of the rage is that I saw myself being trapped into doing something while I, for whatever reasons, really wanted to do something else. I was "asked" and told why it was needed and all in front of an audience and with a time constraint, too. SO... an answer was needed NOW and clearly it must meet the needs of some other... and my interests were not inquired about... SO - I was TRAPPED.
2. And... the "other" just talked and talked and talked and set up the situation so that the "other" could not be refused because illness and weakness was all on the "other" side. How could anyone refuse. SO - TRAPPED again! And the audience could see how needy was this other!
3. The reasons given may or may not have been the entire set of reasons. And - if I was to do anything else --- I would have been alone in a strange area of the city. THANKS alot. And I already had been told that "walking by oneself" was undesireable and even dangerous. So, I wonder, if this "danger" issue might have been a or even the reason!
I DO get angy. That is ok, I think. Becoming enraged is NOT ok. Being ENTRAPPED is also not ok. Feeling like I have no choice is a bad feeling for me. A VERY BAD FEELING. Nevertheless, I must try, in the future, to BREATHE through it. Even if it kills me to be trapped - that is something I need to do.... Right?
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