So....
I know a person, mid-30's, nice, smart, generally healthy but with chronic issues, UNDER-employed. Through knowing this person I have become aware of things called: INFORMATIONAL INTERVIEWS. And I have seen this person making a career of them. Similarly, I think, people go for psychological counseling and they make a career of that, too. I link the two because such things (finding a career and getting ones' head clear) need to come to some closure sooner rather than later.
Why the apparent urgency? I think the reason I assert an urgency is based on the "making a career" idea for things which need the making of a decision with some committment. It seems too easy to not decide and to not commit and there is value in committments and that value is that when a committment is made THEN does one find the depths and full realities of what is out there... The Interview give you someone's individual point of view... colored, even, by their feelings, etc of the moment of the interview. Better would be books and articles about the professions... with interviews used to confirm or check some specifics.
In any case... decisions, committment, CLOSURE is important even if it is just for the time-being. When I was a recent graduate the talk, in 1973, was that young people were not committing to life-long careers and we were different and things were different... etc, etc.. I don't see that much of such stuff from my day nor do I see it now... EXCEPT for the fact that it IS TRUE that big companies which were called "Blue chips" and had jobs that are/were like "government" jobs are not long secure and stable like "government" jobs. Even government jobs have proven to be less stable and secure than soo many used to think. It is NOT, in my opinion, workers who are not willing to commit for the long term but it is companies, government agencies, etc... which are not able to maintain themselves. Some of that has to do with bad planning, some with the "tax-revolt", some with accidents, whatever. The point is... ?????
So - what if there is NO RUSH???
What if we consider another area related to decisions and committments. That would be the area of relationships. In THIS area what I know is that lots of people are looking for love in all the wrong places. OR... at least - many people I grew up with did NOT think finding someone in a bar was effective, likely, or APPROPRIATE. The "appropriateness" was related to most of the folks I knew were college grads or students and Jewish and drinking was not such a good thing. This probably has mostly to do with the Jewish aspect. SO... do I think that still holds some truth? Well.... I must say that I do not have skills to bring to bear on meeting and getting to know someone for a relationship from the bar scene. The people I have met were met at school, at work, in organizations (most specifically the Congregation), and via singles-groups/dating services. SO... I think that you meet people where they and you are and that BARS are a special area which has its pluses, perhaps, but mostly minuses. The pluses apply when you are transient and you are looking for other transients... OR you are in a community and folks from your community go to the bar you are going to... AND THEN... it is really the "community" which is what makes something positive happen. The minuses... are about the transience of people and about the artificiality of bars and about the masks and lies which people can put on in places such as bars where there are few checks to balance mere appearances... THE POINT IS... if you want to meet certain kinds of people go to where they do the things which define them in some way as a certain kind of person.
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