a late night thought

So.... one realization I had today (not the one I forgot which is still forgotten) is that I am or have been ready ? and willing to help my parents and/or sister - i.e. my family with things. Big things.. maybe little things... BUT they don't think so because they have not gotten things/attention/etc from me which they demand such as - attendending to them whenever there may have been a potential conflict with someone else.... the first such thing was - where to spend a Mother's Day after I was married. With my mother or maybe my wife's. Such demands were/are tests, I am thinking. They are supposed to indicate loyalty. They felt to me to be arbitrary and unnecessary demands made to just be selfish and so.... I freed myself of that... and that is good.