Fighting between those who are close. Those who have a history together. Those who share lots of life and who can have lots of issues. Some unsaid. Some crossovers. What have you? What you have is difficulty in focusing on the single things that come up. One person says - this is bothering me... and the other person says - well such and such is a problem for me. The such and such is a reaction to the "this" and now who knows what is the problem. One problem has become two and there really was just one... but now there is confusion and distraction and a first escalation and thus the opportunity to further escalate. and DISTRACT.
Darn....
Talmud says:
"5. Yosi ben Yochanan of Jerusalem said: Let your house be wide open and let the poor be members of thy household; and do not talk much with women. This was said about one's own wife; how much more so about the wife of one's neighbor. Therefore the sages have said: He who talks too much with women brings evil upon himself and neglects the study of the Torah and will in the end inherit Gehenna."
Talking with ones wife may be about issues and differences and peeves and anoyances and talking directly with the person who is party to the difficulty is very difficult. Defenses go up and too often offense happens, too. Some say the best defense is a good offense!
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