When we are happy and things are going well... We share that with others and it is appreciated and we empathize for the good of another. YES... empathize with happiness.... Support happiness. Be thankful for the happiness of others.
Easy? Well -- maybe and maybe not...
What about when someone is sad and things are not going well for some other. Many suggest we empathize with that other. We should give support as appropriate. And be grateful, too?
Grateful for what?
And it seems easy... ??? to empathize with someone who is having a difficult time.
Maybe easier to empathize with someone's difficulties rather then with their joys.... ? Maybe?
I wonder why...
WHILE WONDERING....
Consider what you feel and what you tell people you are feeling. I imagine we all generally say -- I'm fine, I'm ok... etc. etc... and yet we may not be fully honest!? On the other hand those times we tell people we are sad, not doing well, feeling bad... etc, etc... are we not being more honest when we reveal our weakness? Granted, I imagine, we open up rarely and only to certain people. People who we hope (and even expect!) will care. People who may empathize. People who may be supportive as appropriate!
Therefore -- if we can truly empathize with those who are truly happy... it is also likely we can empathize with those who tell us their woes, worries, pains, sadness, etc.
Paying attention to our feelings and sharing our feelings and hearing the feelings of others is ??? What is it? Difficult? Life? Useful? REAL?!
These days .. I am sometimes sad, sometimes frustrated, sometimes happy, sometimes positively energized, etc. etc.. I try to feel what I am feeling instead of becoming to0 negative (angry) or too positive (manic). Being mindful... being in the here and now on one side or the other of contentment seems healthy .. for me and for people I care about.
AH .. CARING! Even for those people who are difficult!
BUT TO A POINT... I had in mind as I began this, to wit: telling someone you are sad is very, very difficult. Sure -- if you are happy and the person you share that with doesn't empathize .. well you still are happy. If you are sad and the person you share that with doesn't empathize then you may be even more sad and alone and unsupported. THEREFORE -- it behooves all of us to surely be empathetic when we are told of another's sadness, difficulties, etc... And it is also good practice and "nice" to be empathetic with someone who is happy!
REMEMBER ... please empathize with those in distress! And tell people when you have some distress so people can empathize.
We all get sad. We can share that. We all can use a little help. We can all give help. AND that is between us humans.
Between us and G-d... that may be another thing... since we all are living G-d's plans.
Blessings.
Ken
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