Yesterday - brought Foxie back to Sarah. This morning... no doggy. Though her 8am breakfast call got me out of bed.
This morning -- told by Barry at CBH - contact the new Rabbi... which I did by email.
And then - some pizza for breakfast w/coffee and some facebook where the idea/question came up: How do I feel when I am with the person of my relationship? Good question. I do wonder about the present, the past, and the FUTURE... But really - in the moment - when we are both present -- How do I feel?
SO - how do I feel? I am thinking and let me list...
comfortable AND at ease AND caring/compassionate AND careful about what I say and how AND turned on AND yet distant, physcially AND distance driving to her ... diffilcult AND anxous about my lifestyle/activities which are random and unfocused and not particularly productive one might judge (and am I being judged?) AND not very cared for... maybe? AND ????
How do I feel when aroung her? Do I feel smaller or bigger? Do I feel like myself without shrinking? Do I expand, grow, be more alive, vibrant...?
from the facebook:
Melissa Divaris Thompson
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So many people confuse intensity with intimacy. If calm love feels unfamiliar to you, there is nothing wrong with you. You might just be touching an old wound that was never given language.
Healthy love feels steady. It feels safe. It feels like someone choosing you without making you perform for it.
If this sparked something inside you, I have more support, tools, and resources for healing your relationship patterns in the link in my bio. You are worthy of a love that stays
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the listing above is ... hmmmm... not so wonderful. But it IS nice to have someone to hug, etc.
DO I feel good about myself? Am I being AUTHENTIC!
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DO TOGETHER... to build:
Shakira, Burna Boy · Dai DailyDo's - or do's sometimes...
1. Watch the sunrise together. 2. Watch the sunset in silence. 3. Take a long walk with no destination. 4. Visit a bookstore and pick a book for each other. 5. Go hiking and leave your phones in your pockets. 6. Have a picnic in the park. 7. Build a puzzle together. 8. Take a dance class. 9. Visit an art museum. 10. Go to a local farmer’s market. 11. Make coffee and talk for hours. 12. Cook a new recipe together. 13. Bake cookies from scratch. 14. Go stargazing. 15. Watch old home videos or childhood photos. 16. Create a shared playlist and listen to it on a drive. 17. Rent bikes and explore your city. 18. Visit a botanical garden. 19. Volunteer together. 20. Go thrift shopping and style each other. 21. Paint on canvases—even if you’re both terrible. 22. Take a pottery class. 23. Read your favorite book aloud to each other. 24. Write letters to your future selves. 25. Make a vision board together. 26. Visit an aquarium or zoo. 27. Play board games without keeping score. 28. Learn a new skill together from YouTube. 29. Have a movie night with homemade popcorn. 30. Go kayaking or paddleboarding. 31. Spend an afternoon at the beach or by a lake. 32. Visit a small town you’ve never explored. 33. Create a scrapbook of your memories. 34. Build a blanket fort and talk all night. 35. Go roller skating or ice skating. 36. Take photos of each other around your city. 37. Visit a library and discover something new. 38. Sit somewhere beautiful and ask each other meaningful questions. 39. Turn off your phones for a few hours and simply be present. 40. Watch airplanes take off and dream about future trips. 41. Make a playlist that tells your love story. 42. Go camping—even if it’s just in your backyard. 43. Learn each other’s favorite childhood games. 44. Have a “yes day” where you take turns choosing activities. 45. Plant flowers or start a small garden together. 46. Create a time capsule. 47. Drive with no destination and follow random turns. 48. Watch a meteor shower if one is happening. 49. Spend a day doing each other’s favorite hobbies. 50. Dream out loud about the life you want to build together
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THINGS TO DO:
read
write
walk
exercise
hike
bike
swim
paint
sculpt-pottery
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