2025 Daily - 06/8/2025 - (SUNDAY -lots of time)CD - Cognitive Dissonance - big AI answer! AND more about me....

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Cognitive dissonance is a psychological term referring to the discomfort or tension felt when a person holds two conflicting beliefs or behaviors, or when they experience a conflict between their beliefs and their actions. This internal conflict can cause individuals to experience anxiety and be motivated to reduce the dissonance by changing their beliefs, behaviors, or by finding ways to reconcile the conflicting elements.

Here's a more detailed explanation:
Definition:
Cognitive dissonance is a state of psychological discomfort or tension that arises when a person has conflicting ideas, beliefs, or behaviors.

Causes:
It can occur when a person's behavior conflicts with their beliefs, when they hold two contradictory beliefs simultaneously, or when they learn new information that contradicts their existing beliefs.

Examples:
A person who believes in animal rights but also eats meat might experience cognitive dissonance. A smoker who knows that smoking is harmful but continues to smoke may also experience this discomfort.

Reduction Strategies:
Individuals may reduce cognitive dissonance by changing their beliefs, changing their behavior, or by finding ways to rationalize or justify their actions to make them seem consistent with their beliefs.

Importance:
Understanding cognitive dissonance can help individuals become more aware of their own biases and how they might be influencing their thoughts and actions. It can also help in decision-making, as it highlights the potential for conflicting beliefs to lead to uncomfortable situations.

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What is my discomfort? What are my beliefs? What new information has come forward - or perhaps in this case what has come forward is new problems ... for Debbie... as I have my problems, too. Where/what is the conflict within me? About what? What bias' do I hold? Am I putting myself into uncomfortable situations? When visiting Debbie? When listening to her -- since she does dominate conversations.

The video...  accompanying/within the link noted at top says: "The most important point: Minimizing discomfort in the mind can be a great motivator." A major way to minimize discomfort is to rationalize the problematic behaviour in some way. The problematic behaviour I am doing is being nice, supportive, etc to my sister while feeling used and disrespected. She doesn't know who I am nor does she really care except with easy to say words. Peer pressure is offered as an example and my peers generally approve of what I am doing and not doing. Good deeds are those that include calling and visiting ... while I am not doing anything to ask Debbie for her acknowledgement and apology for her actions and inactions. I have not done the following which some have suggested... because I can't or won't take on my sides of the questions, assertions:

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create a bridge.... clean up -- leave things finished... all those unfinished things...
MODERATE  the forgive parts... 

ok to write... just so I can be heard....
                 

THANKS FOR ALL YOU GAVE ME..

I HOPE YOU FORGIVE ME

I FORGIVE YOU

I LOVE YOU...

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Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian practice of forgiveness and reconciliation that involves saying "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you". It's a way to heal relationships and oneself

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WHAT DO I WANT????!!!????!!!! While I still may get "it"?

What decisions am I making ... and where is any cognitive dissonance? I WOULD SAY... I AM ACTING IN A WAY FOR A WHILE... THAT IS EASIER FOR ME. DO WHAT SEEMS RIGHT... AND SOON THINGS WILL END AND I WILL NOT NEED TO DO ANYTHING MORE. SIMPLE!

The point is... I am making decisions to minimize my exposure to criticism. I wonder (and can list) other decisions/actions I have taken which perhaps were wrong or at least ineffective or destructive or just not useful to me!